guest post by Rupy Kaur as part of Sunday Speaker’s Corner
In a months time itâ€™ll be Valentineâ€™s Day (VD) and soon there will be lovey dovey gifts in all the shops along with love hearted balloons. Well itâ€™s time for those balloons to be POPPED! Like venereal disease, VD has also become diseased. When people make a show and a dance from expressing their love, it is questionable as to whether their love is actually real.
Being a disabled activist I have noticed that within the disability world there is the constant debate and presumption that disabled people find it hard to find a partner due to their disability. I avoid reading articles about â€˜disability and sex/relationshipsâ€™ as I find them stupid! Especially when reading things like, â€˜a mother of a 21 year old, autistic boy, wishes to pay a woman to have sex with himâ€¦â€™ awkward silence and feelings of WEIRDNESS will then followâ€¦
WAKE UP people!!! Yes, disability is a variable when choosing the right partner but there other variables too. Perhaps you are just boring, or have green teeth and smell real bad? Maybe youâ€™re culturally different and therefore have different opinions on certain values? Unfortunately, it is estimated that only 1/3 people will find you attractive anyway, disabled, or non-disabled.
Choosing a life partner is like choosing the right pair of shoes. A shoe shop may be filled with lots of lovely shoes. However only s few will have the right balance – shoes which are comfy, yet stylish at the same time. Sometimes it can take years to find the right pair of shoes, but when you do, youâ€™ll never want to chuck those shoes away.
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