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	<title>Comments on: It&#8217;s not just about &#8216;honour&#8217; killings…</title>
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		<title>By: TJ</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-2#comment-29020</link>
		<dc:creator>TJ</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 22 Jul 2006 11:30:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Those convicted of &quot;Honour Killings&quot; should have a racist element attached to their crimes. 

The murderers considered that the colour / religion / social status of a person was &quot;inferior&quot; to them and this was the motivation for their murderous actions.  Essentially they are &quot;Racial Supremiscists&quot;.

In some instances, they killed their daughter because they believed their group were genetically/racially superior to the group of the man which their daughter was associated with, wished to marry, was having a relationship with.  

But in other instances they killed a man because he was having a relationship with their daughter.  Several clear instances include the murder of an Albanian man and an Indian man.  

The murderers were charged with &quot;straight&quot; murder, when in actual fact they should have been charged with &quot;racially motivated&quot; murder.  However the British judiciary is somewhat &quot;colour blind&quot; when it comes to charges of &quot;racially motivated&quot; and these are most commonly levelled only at &quot;white&quot; criminals. 

These people are nothing less than the worst sort of RACISTS and this should be highlighted. 

How about;

&quot;Race Hatred Motivated Murder&quot;
&quot;Race Hatred Associaton Murder&quot;
&quot;Ethnic Supremicist Murder&quot; 

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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Those convicted of &#8220;Honour Killings&#8221; should have a racist element attached to their crimes. </p>
<p>The murderers considered that the colour / religion / social status of a person was &#8220;inferior&#8221; to them and this was the motivation for their murderous actions.  Essentially they are &#8220;Racial Supremiscists&#8221;.</p>
<p>In some instances, they killed their daughter because they believed their group were genetically/racially superior to the group of the man which their daughter was associated with, wished to marry, was having a relationship with.  </p>
<p>But in other instances they killed a man because he was having a relationship with their daughter.  Several clear instances include the murder of an Albanian man and an Indian man.  </p>
<p>The murderers were charged with &#8220;straight&#8221; murder, when in actual fact they should have been charged with &#8220;racially motivated&#8221; murder.  However the British judiciary is somewhat &#8220;colour blind&#8221; when it comes to charges of &#8220;racially motivated&#8221; and these are most commonly levelled only at &#8220;white&#8221; criminals. </p>
<p>These people are nothing less than the worst sort of RACISTS and this should be highlighted. </p>
<p>How about;</p>
<p>&#8220;Race Hatred Motivated Murder&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Race Hatred Associaton Murder&#8221;<br />
&#8220;Ethnic Supremicist Murder&#8221; </p>
<p>?</p>
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		<title>By: Sophia</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-2#comment-28954</link>
		<dc:creator>Sophia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 15:56:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Sonia, I know, but it&#039;s just a suggestion, I have no way of knowing how it could be implemented correctly without infringing peoples&#039;rights.  

Although, when applications are made for spouses&#039; visas does it not appear weird to the people supplying them that an educated woman in the UK would choose to marry an illiterate man from a village with whom she&#039;s unlikely to have anything in common, maybe some women would, I don&#039;t know for sure. Maybe, there needs to be a better system of vetting applications. As it is, the parents infringe their children&#039;s rights, by not allowing them to marry a partner of their choice, so maybe some would welcome a drastic change, because let&#039;s be honest the kids cannot and will not stand up against these practices and look what happens when they do.

People are behaving as if they&#039;re still in the pind (village) back home. Repercussions for carryign out such acts, such as life imprisonment don&#039;t appear to deter them, so maybe something which will directly inhibit their actions needs to be done.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sonia, I know, but it&#8217;s just a suggestion, I have no way of knowing how it could be implemented correctly without infringing peoples&#8217;rights.  </p>
<p>Although, when applications are made for spouses&#8217; visas does it not appear weird to the people supplying them that an educated woman in the UK would choose to marry an illiterate man from a village with whom she&#8217;s unlikely to have anything in common, maybe some women would, I don&#8217;t know for sure. Maybe, there needs to be a better system of vetting applications. As it is, the parents infringe their children&#8217;s rights, by not allowing them to marry a partner of their choice, so maybe some would welcome a drastic change, because let&#8217;s be honest the kids cannot and will not stand up against these practices and look what happens when they do.</p>
<p>People are behaving as if they&#8217;re still in the pind (village) back home. Repercussions for carryign out such acts, such as life imprisonment don&#8217;t appear to deter them, so maybe something which will directly inhibit their actions needs to be done.</p>
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		<title>By: Ravi Naik</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-2#comment-28932</link>
		<dc:creator>Ravi Naik</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 14:26:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;&quot;Ravi, as I said I was getting a little annoyed and impatient;&quot;&lt;/i&gt;

Actually Leon, the questions were to Mr. Obvious. The moral of the story is that nothing is too obvious that cannot be repeated.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>&#8220;Ravi, as I said I was getting a little annoyed and impatient;&#8221;</i></p>
<p>Actually Leon, the questions were to Mr. Obvious. The moral of the story is that nothing is too obvious that cannot be repeated.</p>
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		<title>By: sonia</title>
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		<dc:creator>sonia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 14:19:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>valid points sophia and it&#039;s interesting what you say about the tribal system.

however it&#039;s not easy to do what you suggest - &quot;As far as I can see the only way to stop this is not to allow marriage partners from villages into the UK&quot;. ah and how do you do that? who&#039;s going to say x can&#039;t marry y? how is that implemented without infringing people&#039;s rights to marry whom they choose?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>valid points sophia and it&#8217;s interesting what you say about the tribal system.</p>
<p>however it&#8217;s not easy to do what you suggest &#8211; &#8220;As far as I can see the only way to stop this is not to allow marriage partners from villages into the UK&#8221;. ah and how do you do that? who&#8217;s going to say x can&#8217;t marry y? how is that implemented without infringing people&#8217;s rights to marry whom they choose?</p>
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		<title>By: Sophia</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sophia</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 12:43:10 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>EL Cid, you&#039;ll find that most of these types of practices are particular to the Pakistani Mirpuri communities and not so much with the Punjabis. The reason for this is that the Mirpuris operate on a feudal/tribal level, whereby caste is all too important. Also, they believe that their inheritance via their daughters needs to be mainted within the family, therefore, the majority of cousin marriages, even if they be cousins from a village back home. Maintaining the caste and keeping within the family is of paramount importance.

These are, again, very tribal and non-islamic practices, Mirpuris being Muslims of course, as the caste system is not valid in Islam and neither is it recommended that you only marry your cousins. As a Muslim you are, theoretically, free to marry any other Muslim from any background, race, so in this case the woman was perfectly within her rights, Islamically, to marry her Afghani fiancee,etc.   

The problem is further compounded by the fact that when these usually illiterate cousins/marriage partners male or female arrive from back home they continue these practices with their offspring because they themselves have not been educated and generally have not integrated with the society as a whole. 

I am aware that this does exist in the other communities too, but if I am being unfair then maybe statistics need to be produced on which section of the community are conducting such acts, not to victimise them but to identify specifically where the problem exists and why.

As far as I can see the only way to stop this is not to allow marriage partners from villages into the UK, once it&#039;s known amongst the community that they&#039;re not able to run back home to arrange these marriages, the power to do so and kill as a result of it, will no longer exist, possibly?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>EL Cid, you&#8217;ll find that most of these types of practices are particular to the Pakistani Mirpuri communities and not so much with the Punjabis. The reason for this is that the Mirpuris operate on a feudal/tribal level, whereby caste is all too important. Also, they believe that their inheritance via their daughters needs to be mainted within the family, therefore, the majority of cousin marriages, even if they be cousins from a village back home. Maintaining the caste and keeping within the family is of paramount importance.</p>
<p>These are, again, very tribal and non-islamic practices, Mirpuris being Muslims of course, as the caste system is not valid in Islam and neither is it recommended that you only marry your cousins. As a Muslim you are, theoretically, free to marry any other Muslim from any background, race, so in this case the woman was perfectly within her rights, Islamically, to marry her Afghani fiancee,etc.   </p>
<p>The problem is further compounded by the fact that when these usually illiterate cousins/marriage partners male or female arrive from back home they continue these practices with their offspring because they themselves have not been educated and generally have not integrated with the society as a whole. </p>
<p>I am aware that this does exist in the other communities too, but if I am being unfair then maybe statistics need to be produced on which section of the community are conducting such acts, not to victimise them but to identify specifically where the problem exists and why.</p>
<p>As far as I can see the only way to stop this is not to allow marriage partners from villages into the UK, once it&#8217;s known amongst the community that they&#8217;re not able to run back home to arrange these marriages, the power to do so and kill as a result of it, will no longer exist, possibly?</p>
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		<title>By: Leon</title>
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		<dc:creator>Leon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 09:19:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Ravi, as I said I was getting a little annoyed and impatient; hence the off the cuff remarks...perhaps I should have said murdering innocent human beings is wrong whatever the reason!? 

Shooting down a plane to stop a Sept 11 type attack and killing those on board wouldn&#039;t be murder in the eyes of the law (as I understand it).</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Ravi, as I said I was getting a little annoyed and impatient; hence the off the cuff remarks&#8230;perhaps I should have said murdering innocent human beings is wrong whatever the reason!? </p>
<p>Shooting down a plane to stop a Sept 11 type attack and killing those on board wouldn&#8217;t be murder in the eyes of the law (as I understand it).</p>
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		<title>By: Ravi Naik</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-2#comment-28849</link>
		<dc:creator>Ravi Naik</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 08:24:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;&quot;Coming next from Leon - the sky is blue, and the grass is green&lt;/i&gt;

But is it obvious why the sky is blue?

&lt;i&gt;&quot; Killing innocent human beings is wrong whatever the reason&quot;&lt;/i&gt;

What if a plane is hijacked in the air? Would you shoot it to prevent another 9/11?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>&#8220;Coming next from Leon &#8211; the sky is blue, and the grass is green</i></p>
<p>But is it obvious why the sky is blue?</p>
<p><i>&#8221; Killing innocent human beings is wrong whatever the reason&#8221;</i></p>
<p>What if a plane is hijacked in the air? Would you shoot it to prevent another 9/11?</p>
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		<title>By: El Cid</title>
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		<dc:creator>El Cid</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2006 05:32:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Gibs, Dezmond is right, that&#039;s why the most effective campaign against honour killings is from within the Asian community. 
There&#039;s nothing wrong with that -- it&#039;s the same with any culture-specific subject. Take the Americans -- if they are ever going to wean themselves off gas guzzlers and rifles, they are going to have to arrive at that conclusion by themselves, otherwise they are just gonna close ranks and tell the rest of the world to fuck off. Or take bull-fighting and Spain or whale hunting and Japan, etc.
It&#039;s just realism, clever politics, etc.
In any case, there are hundreds of thousands of second or third gen British Asians potentially ready to fight that cause. 
We also need to be wary of mixing forced marriages with arranged marriages. I imagine that the distinction can get blurred at some point, but they are different and if many many Asians swear by them then why should the rest of us complain. 
I admit, the tendency to have arranged marriages with someone &quot;back home&quot; rather than from within the rest of the UK community, is unhelpful and regressive when it comes to furthering the cause of integration. There is also something not quite right with pairing off an urbanite niece with a village dumbkopf uncle. But these are specific issues and, while particular to some British Punjabis/Pakistanis (correct me if I&#039;m wrong), should not be used in a way that castigates the whole community and causes alienation.
I think that&#039;s bleeding obvious, but Mr. Obvious might disagree.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Gibs, Dezmond is right, that&#8217;s why the most effective campaign against honour killings is from within the Asian community.<br />
There&#8217;s nothing wrong with that &#8212; it&#8217;s the same with any culture-specific subject. Take the Americans &#8212; if they are ever going to wean themselves off gas guzzlers and rifles, they are going to have to arrive at that conclusion by themselves, otherwise they are just gonna close ranks and tell the rest of the world to fuck off. Or take bull-fighting and Spain or whale hunting and Japan, etc.<br />
It&#8217;s just realism, clever politics, etc.<br />
In any case, there are hundreds of thousands of second or third gen British Asians potentially ready to fight that cause.<br />
We also need to be wary of mixing forced marriages with arranged marriages. I imagine that the distinction can get blurred at some point, but they are different and if many many Asians swear by them then why should the rest of us complain.<br />
I admit, the tendency to have arranged marriages with someone &#8220;back home&#8221; rather than from within the rest of the UK community, is unhelpful and regressive when it comes to furthering the cause of integration. There is also something not quite right with pairing off an urbanite niece with a village dumbkopf uncle. But these are specific issues and, while particular to some British Punjabis/Pakistanis (correct me if I&#8217;m wrong), should not be used in a way that castigates the whole community and causes alienation.<br />
I think that&#8217;s bleeding obvious, but Mr. Obvious might disagree.</p>
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		<title>By: mirax</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28820</link>
		<dc:creator>mirax</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 22:50:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Thanks for posting the CIMEL/Interight link Soru. I had them and the WLUML (excellent site, part of my regular reading) but hesitated in posting them as both had a muslim link which might have been considered provocative.

The list of reading material on WLUML is excellent:

http://www.wluml.org/english/publistheme.shtml?cmd[23]=c-1-Violence%20against%20women</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Thanks for posting the CIMEL/Interight link Soru. I had them and the WLUML (excellent site, part of my regular reading) but hesitated in posting them as both had a muslim link which might have been considered provocative.</p>
<p>The list of reading material on WLUML is excellent:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.wluml.org/english/publistheme.shtml?cmd23=c-1-Violence%20against%20women" rel="nofollow">http://www.wluml.org/english/publistheme.shtml?cmd23=c-1-Violence%20against%20women</a></p>
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		<title>By: soru</title>
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		<dc:creator>soru</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 21:42:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>There&#039;s plenty of research on honour killings, unfortunately &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.springerlink.com/(wyemoneqb3qdk2fkkp3sawvv)/app/home/contribution.asp?referrer=parent&amp;backto=issue,9,10;journal,138,326;linkingpublicationresults,1:101600,1&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt; most of it&lt;/a&gt; uses language like:

&lt;i&gt;Extending Nader&#039;s theoretical framework on hegemonic discourse, this paper demonstrates the androcentricity inherent in these views. When Arab village women&#039;s gossip creates the climate in which the murder of a young woman is inevitable, a feminist anthropological perspective addressing the androcentric hegemonic discourse on aggression and human rights, however sensitive to multiple voices, requires challenging the assumption that aggression is eufunctional because tradition, cohesion, and stability are inherently positive.&lt;/i&gt;

The stuff &lt;a href=&quot;http://www.soas.ac.uk/honourcrimes/&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;here&lt;/a&gt; is slightly less intense bullshit.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>There&#8217;s plenty of research on honour killings, unfortunately <a href="http://www.springerlink.com/(wyemoneqb3qdk2fkkp3sawvv)/app/home/contribution.asp?referrer=parent&amp;backto=issue,9,10;journal,138,326;linkingpublicationresults,1:101600,1" rel="nofollow"> most of it</a> uses language like:</p>
<p><i>Extending Nader&#8217;s theoretical framework on hegemonic discourse, this paper demonstrates the androcentricity inherent in these views. When Arab village women&#8217;s gossip creates the climate in which the murder of a young woman is inevitable, a feminist anthropological perspective addressing the androcentric hegemonic discourse on aggression and human rights, however sensitive to multiple voices, requires challenging the assumption that aggression is eufunctional because tradition, cohesion, and stability are inherently positive.</i></p>
<p>The stuff <a href="http://www.soas.ac.uk/honourcrimes/" rel="nofollow">here</a> is slightly less intense bullshit.</p>
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		<title>By: Katy Newton</title>
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		<dc:creator>Katy Newton</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 21:04:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Mr Obvious, you sound terribly familiar.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Mr Obvious, you sound terribly familiar.</p>
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		<title>By: Mr Obvious</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28781</link>
		<dc:creator>Mr Obvious</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:53:39 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&lt;i&gt;@ Mr Obvious: got anything useful to contribute or is wise ass comments you’re only trade?&lt;/i&gt;

I can do other stuff too, walking on my hands as well as brilliant impressions of Tommy Cooper and Robert De Niro in Taxi Driver as well as stating the obvious.

Fuck that shit. Raping children is wrong. I don&#039;t give a fuck what anyone says.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><i>@ Mr Obvious: got anything useful to contribute or is wise ass comments you’re only trade?</i></p>
<p>I can do other stuff too, walking on my hands as well as brilliant impressions of Tommy Cooper and Robert De Niro in Taxi Driver as well as stating the obvious.</p>
<p>Fuck that shit. Raping children is wrong. I don&#8217;t give a fuck what anyone says.</p>
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		<title>By: Leon</title>
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		<dc:creator>Leon</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:41:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Apologies Mirax, just getting a little impatient, I blame the heat...@ Mr Obvious: got anything useful to contribute or is wise ass comments you&#039;re only trade?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Apologies Mirax, just getting a little impatient, I blame the heat&#8230;@ Mr Obvious: got anything useful to contribute or is wise ass comments you&#8217;re only trade?</p>
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		<title>By: Dezmond</title>
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		<dc:creator>Dezmond</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:28:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Gibs alot of white people like Old Peculiar use things like that as a stick to beat Asians with and employ their stereotypes. That&#039;s why some people react that way. Plenty of them white folk about.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Gibs alot of white people like Old Peculiar use things like that as a stick to beat Asians with and employ their stereotypes. That&#8217;s why some people react that way. Plenty of them white folk about.</p>
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		<title>By: mirax</title>
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		<dc:creator>mirax</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:10:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I was a very contrary child so my parents never got much of a chance to dictate anything to me but I see a lot of socialistion (brainwashing) going on in Indian culture where the parents esp the mother, is literally treated like a god. Take a look at the movies, at the soaps etc. It was there in my culture - in the form of proverbs, literature going on about parental sacrifice and our duty to them  ad nauseam. Luckily for me, at a fairly young age, I found a thirukural - a 2000 year old non religious philosphical text (all tamil kids are taught kurals from almost year one of their education so it was nothing  precocious on my part, just sme sharpminded attention)that explicitly said that ONLY parents have the duty of care to their kids since they choose to bring them into the world and kids have nothing but the duty of love in reciprocation to parental sacrifice. My parents could simply not argue with Thiruvalluvar, the bloke who wrote that.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I was a very contrary child so my parents never got much of a chance to dictate anything to me but I see a lot of socialistion (brainwashing) going on in Indian culture where the parents esp the mother, is literally treated like a god. Take a look at the movies, at the soaps etc. It was there in my culture &#8211; in the form of proverbs, literature going on about parental sacrifice and our duty to them  ad nauseam. Luckily for me, at a fairly young age, I found a thirukural &#8211; a 2000 year old non religious philosphical text (all tamil kids are taught kurals from almost year one of their education so it was nothing  precocious on my part, just sme sharpminded attention)that explicitly said that ONLY parents have the duty of care to their kids since they choose to bring them into the world and kids have nothing but the duty of love in reciprocation to parental sacrifice. My parents could simply not argue with Thiruvalluvar, the bloke who wrote that.</p>
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		<title>By: Billy</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28775</link>
		<dc:creator>Billy</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:10:03 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Calling them &quot;honour&quot; killings and putting &quot;honour&quot; in quotation marks makes a good point I feel.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Calling them &#8220;honour&#8221; killings and putting &#8220;honour&#8221; in quotation marks makes a good point I feel.</p>
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		<title>By: Gibs</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28773</link>
		<dc:creator>Gibs</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 20:02:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>“a heavy handed approach will only harden resolve and result in the exact opposite of the desired goal”

A heavy handed approach by whom ?  I take it you are meaning by the government. Sorry, but that is exactly what is needed. For too long, they have tried to appease reactionaries amongst the called &quot;community leaders&quot; and shied away from taking firm action.

Another thing I hate is that whenever a &quot;non Asian&quot; speaks out against such barbaric practices as honour killings and forced marriages, many Asians instinctively feel that they have to try and semi justify it.

They may end up saying something like &quot;I know forced marriages/honour killings are wrong, BUT ....&quot;.

BUT NOTHING!!!! 

Forced marriages are wrong - full stop! (and the Asian person who tries to semi justify it probably thinks so too - it&#039;s just that he/she didn&#039;t like to hear it coming from the mouth of a white person).

That sort of attitude [&quot;I agree with what you say, but I&#039;ll pretend not to because I don&#039;t like to hear you (a white person) saying it&quot;) is completely hypocritical.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“a heavy handed approach will only harden resolve and result in the exact opposite of the desired goal”</p>
<p>A heavy handed approach by whom ?  I take it you are meaning by the government. Sorry, but that is exactly what is needed. For too long, they have tried to appease reactionaries amongst the called &#8220;community leaders&#8221; and shied away from taking firm action.</p>
<p>Another thing I hate is that whenever a &#8220;non Asian&#8221; speaks out against such barbaric practices as honour killings and forced marriages, many Asians instinctively feel that they have to try and semi justify it.</p>
<p>They may end up saying something like &#8220;I know forced marriages/honour killings are wrong, BUT &#8230;.&#8221;.</p>
<p>BUT NOTHING!!!! </p>
<p>Forced marriages are wrong &#8211; full stop! (and the Asian person who tries to semi justify it probably thinks so too &#8211; it&#8217;s just that he/she didn&#8217;t like to hear it coming from the mouth of a white person).</p>
<p>That sort of attitude [&#8220;I agree with what you say, but I&#8217;ll pretend not to because I don&#8217;t like to hear you (a white person) saying it&#8221;) is completely hypocritical.</p>
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		<title>By: mirax</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28771</link>
		<dc:creator>mirax</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 19:57:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Leon, in case your #36 was directed at me, I am definitely not making excuses for murderers, just responding to some of the points expressed that I think needed clarification or rebuttal.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Leon, in case your #36 was directed at me, I am definitely not making excuses for murderers, just responding to some of the points expressed that I think needed clarification or rebuttal.</p>
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		<title>By: Don</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28770</link>
		<dc:creator>Don</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 19:56:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&#039;Fuck that shit. &#039;

That shit is fucked.

We have fucked that shit.

No fucker is saying that shit anymore.

Some fucker did say that shit, but that shit has fucked off.

Unless you are seeing some shit I don&#039;t fucking see?

Shit, this is fucking fun!</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8216;Fuck that shit. &#8216;</p>
<p>That shit is fucked.</p>
<p>We have fucked that shit.</p>
<p>No fucker is saying that shit anymore.</p>
<p>Some fucker did say that shit, but that shit has fucked off.</p>
<p>Unless you are seeing some shit I don&#8217;t fucking see?</p>
<p>Shit, this is fucking fun!</p>
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		<title>By: Katy Newton</title>
		<link>http://www.pickledpolitics.com/archives/659/comment-page-1#comment-28769</link>
		<dc:creator>Katy Newton</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 20 Jul 2006 19:53:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>If my mother didn&#039;t like someone I was dating, it might make me think about things quite carefully, but I would do the same if one of my close friends expressed misgivings.  But then I am also mixed, in the sense that my mother is Jewish and my father was a lapsed Catholic, so they would never have presumed to dictate who I went out with.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If my mother didn&#8217;t like someone I was dating, it might make me think about things quite carefully, but I would do the same if one of my close friends expressed misgivings.  But then I am also mixed, in the sense that my mother is Jewish and my father was a lapsed Catholic, so they would never have presumed to dictate who I went out with.</p>
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